John spoke of Jesus in chapter 12 verses 42-43 saying:
"Nevertheless among the chief rulers also many believed on him; but because of the Pharisees they did not confess him, lest they should be put out of the synagogue:
For they loved the praise of men more than the praise of God."
When one is addicted to the praise of men they refuse to stand for the truth when it brings disapproval of others. The thoughts of someone not liking them is more than they can bear, even if the person is wrong and can do a world of deadly harm to them and/or others.
Some sort of rejection is often at the root of those who find themselves addicted to men, even rejection as a small child that they never processed properly. Roots of rejection need an ax laid to the root, as rejection defects them from become who they are truly mean to be.
The praise of men swings from the hinges of fear.
In John 7:13 John was recording the story of Jesus saying:
"Howbeit no man spake openly of him for fear of the Jews."
And again in chapter 9 verse 22,
"These words spake his parents, because they feared the Jews: for the Jews had agreed already, that if any man did confess that he was Christ, he should be put out of the synagogue."
People who are looking for the praise of men never stand boldly with any man for truth. They are wishy washy. They are for you before your face and then before the next face they are against you ... after all they must gain the approval and praise of every one they are with, and yet really have the approval and praise of none.
Lack of integrity holds no place of praise or honor.
There is nothing wrong with praise. Praise is a powerful tool when handled properly. Praise is a great builder of strength and defeats many an adversary ... but the want of praise is an entirely different story.
If you must have the praise of men to validate yourself as good or worthy, you have broken self esteem, relying on others for approval at any cost. The praise of men become a kind of rush for you, much like a drug addict awaiting their next fix. But just like a drug, the high is temporal and will wear off.
When the next fix doesn't come, those who seek praise become irritable and dissatisfied with life. At this point they being to seek approval just as the drug addict would seek to find their next drug. A person who is addicted to praise tries to cook praise up like the next batch of Meth.
They may go to a person and hint for words of praise (this may be conscious or unconscious). They will say things like "How do you like my new suit?"
"How does my make up look today?"
They find ways to communicate with a person that brews up personal praise.
Those addicted to men also have a hard time saying NO. Because of this they can find themselves in troubled relationship and many uncomfortable situations. And this only deepens the lack of self esteem. Inside they feel worse about themselves every time they come to the end of one of these relationships or places.
If you must have the praise of men to validate yourself as good or worthy, you have broken self esteem, relying on others for approval at any cost. The praise of men become a kind of rush for you, much like a drug addict awaiting their next fix. But just like a drug, the high is temporal and will wear off.
When the next fix doesn't come, those who seek praise become irritable and dissatisfied with life. At this point they being to seek approval just as the drug addict would seek to find their next drug. A person who is addicted to praise tries to cook praise up like the next batch of Meth.
They may go to a person and hint for words of praise (this may be conscious or unconscious). They will say things like "How do you like my new suit?"
"How does my make up look today?"
They find ways to communicate with a person that brews up personal praise.
Those addicted to men also have a hard time saying NO. Because of this they can find themselves in troubled relationship and many uncomfortable situations. And this only deepens the lack of self esteem. Inside they feel worse about themselves every time they come to the end of one of these relationships or places.
Praise addiction
becomes a roller coaster life of emotional high's and low's!
They gobble it up, and within seconds they’re hungry for more. This process repeats itself, depleting self-esteem, and alienating friends. It can go so far as to where even the well of flattery dries up and all they’re left with is a sense of growing silence from those around them.becomes a roller coaster life of emotional high's and low's!
Someone once said:
People who are addicted to praise will take what they can get. They’ll eat up the lip service and flattery as though it was a wholesome meal when all they’re getting is empty calories.
People who are addicted to praise will take what they can get. They’ll eat up the lip service and flattery as though it was a wholesome meal when all they’re getting is empty calories.
People addicted to the praise of men
often find at life's end they are alone and still wanting.
Build self esteem ... it is imperative for a full and healthy life!
often find at life's end they are alone and still wanting.
Build self esteem ... it is imperative for a full and healthy life!
Instead of looking for the praise of men, begin to find out who you really are. Go deeper into the truth of God's Word to find YOU. And when you do ... begin to find out how you like your eggs instead of ordering them the way the person with you orders theirs.
You will do this by removing yourself from being the target of the praise of men, and putting yourself in daily devotionals, and prayerful meditations of truth concerning yourself.
Each time you are feeling the need for such praise you will refrain yourself from all the hints that would brew your fix. When you buy a new suit ask yourself ... while looking in the mirror, "Do I like this? Am I happy with the way it looks?" Do the same with your hairstyle, or any other choices that you make.
Find what makes you happy and explore those areas to see if it is really to your liking. Don't just go somewhere or do something that others impose because you believe it will gain praise and approval.
Don't violate your conscience to please someone else ... take a first step toward saying NO. The first No is often the hardest, but your self esteem will grow when you are true to yourself and your own beliefs.
Be happy with your own accomplishments, don't wait for someone else to approve them. People's opinions vary. And critics come out to speak the worst of everyone and everything.
Martha Thatcher once said: "If my critics saw me walking over the Thames, they would say it was because I could not swim."
You can not build your esteem upon others opinions. Esteem is build upon truth. And truth will set you free.
Jesus our Lord and Savior, came as an expression of truth. He knew who He was and He did not compromise it for praise. Amazingly however, at the end of his earth journey, the praise He has gained is that of more than any man has ever or will ever obtain!
He was the Word made flesh. He was truth walking. He was all God and all man. And He gave us the ability to enter our best life through the blood he shed on Calvary. He made a way for us to enter into the very truths He walked. Truth that Free.
He liberated us to be our powerful, wonderful praiseworthy selves, not co dependent praise addicted, mask wearing, imitations. Christians need no crutch in life.
Many believe Christians week and dependent. But they err. True Christians (Anointed to be Christ like) are relational and powerful. They know more who they are, than any other breed of people. They walk in truth!
Jesus said, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me. ~ John 14:6
And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free. ~ John 8:32
If the Son therefore shall make you free, ye shall be free indeed. ~ John 8:36
Sanctify them through thy truth: thy word is truth. ~ John 17:17
If you are ready to break free of the need of praise ... there is a way. Why not make the choice today to be free.
One becomes a Christian by faith given us by grace. We enter into this life through heartfelt confession. And then our life becomes transformed through God truths.
The life we live as true Christians is a life of choice.
It is not a brow beating religion that has been enforced upon us.
Those who have confess Christianity in such a manner have not yet entered into the Love or God, nor have the truth of Christ within them.
Make a choice decision that you are going to change,
and then like a drug addict begin to detox.
and then like a drug addict begin to detox.
You will do this by removing yourself from being the target of the praise of men, and putting yourself in daily devotionals, and prayerful meditations of truth concerning yourself.
Each time you are feeling the need for such praise you will refrain yourself from all the hints that would brew your fix. When you buy a new suit ask yourself ... while looking in the mirror, "Do I like this? Am I happy with the way it looks?" Do the same with your hairstyle, or any other choices that you make.
Find what makes you happy and explore those areas to see if it is really to your liking. Don't just go somewhere or do something that others impose because you believe it will gain praise and approval.
Don't violate your conscience to please someone else ... take a first step toward saying NO. The first No is often the hardest, but your self esteem will grow when you are true to yourself and your own beliefs.
Be happy with your own accomplishments, don't wait for someone else to approve them. People's opinions vary. And critics come out to speak the worst of everyone and everything.
Martha Thatcher once said: "If my critics saw me walking over the Thames, they would say it was because I could not swim."
You can not build your esteem upon others opinions. Esteem is build upon truth. And truth will set you free.
Jesus our Lord and Savior, came as an expression of truth. He knew who He was and He did not compromise it for praise. Amazingly however, at the end of his earth journey, the praise He has gained is that of more than any man has ever or will ever obtain!
He was the Word made flesh. He was truth walking. He was all God and all man. And He gave us the ability to enter our best life through the blood he shed on Calvary. He made a way for us to enter into the very truths He walked. Truth that Free.
He liberated us to be our powerful, wonderful praiseworthy selves, not co dependent praise addicted, mask wearing, imitations. Christians need no crutch in life.
Many believe Christians week and dependent. But they err. True Christians (Anointed to be Christ like) are relational and powerful. They know more who they are, than any other breed of people. They walk in truth!
- They are not men pleasers, nor approval addicts.
- They know their God and who they are in Him, and they do valiantly.
- They recognize that God lives within them and they are godlike.
- The are mighty in Spirit and Truth.
- They need not anyone approve them, for they are already approved in the beloved.
Jesus said, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me. ~ John 14:6
And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free. ~ John 8:32
If the Son therefore shall make you free, ye shall be free indeed. ~ John 8:36
Sanctify them through thy truth: thy word is truth. ~ John 17:17
If you are ready to break free of the need of praise ... there is a way. Why not make the choice today to be free.
One becomes a Christian by faith given us by grace. We enter into this life through heartfelt confession. And then our life becomes transformed through God truths.
The life we live as true Christians is a life of choice.
It is not a brow beating religion that has been enforced upon us.
Those who have confess Christianity in such a manner have not yet entered into the Love or God, nor have the truth of Christ within them.
The Love and truth that comes form Christ is liberating, and will Free you to be YOU.
It will destroy the bands that have held you back in life.
If you choose ... you can receive Jesus into your life, and break free.
But the choice is always YOURS.
Romans 10:9-10
It will destroy the bands that have held you back in life.
If you choose ... you can receive Jesus into your life, and break free.
But the choice is always YOURS.
Romans 10:9-10
